Lauren Hayes

Lauren Hayes is a speaker, author, podcaster, and relationship coach who specializes in helping ethically non-monogamous couples—especially swingers and the ENM-curious—navigate this adventurous terrain with more confidence, connection, and ease. With a coaching approach grounded in both professional training and lived experience, Lauren offers tools and guidance that go far beyond the basics of boundaries and consent. Her focus is on helping couples build emotional safety, improve communication, and lean into intimacy, both inside and outside of the bedroom (s).

Married for over 20 years and a swinger for the last six, Lauren understands the rollercoaster of feelings that can come with opening up a long-term relationship. Her work centers on the idea that ethical non-monogamy can be a path to deeper honesty, healing, and self-discovery. Through one-on-one coaching, group retreats, and online programs, she supports couples in making choices that feel good for them—whether they’re new to the lifestyle or navigating hurdles from within.

Lauren is the author of For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist, a candid look at the growth, joy, and unexpected truths that can emerge when couples step off the traditional relationship path. She’s also the voice behind the podcast The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes), where she and her poly friend, Ben, watch and dissect shows/movies where ENM shows up in the mainstream media. She is also a co-founder of The Sacred Sluts, A Group of Spiritually Minded Women Practicing Non-Monogamy.

In her free time, she enjoys hiking (with her dog), pickleball, and weight training. She also loves traveling, deep conversations, reading, dancing, and spending time with her teenage children. Married for over twenty years, that's an adventure all its own!

At this year’s Naughty, Lauren is thrilled to bring a little spice and a lot of heart through three workshops: From FOMO to For Sure: How to Stay Connected While Playing Apart, The Pleasure Performance Review, and From First Flirt to Full Swap: The Roadmap to Stress-Free Play. These sessions are designed to keep your partnership hot, happy, and drama-free—while giving you practical, playful tools to turn exploration into deeper connection.

Links:

Website: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew

The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes) Podcast: https://pod.link/1767688018

For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist (Book): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DRDNCQWQ